It seems like life is easy when you're still on total dependence from your parents or so. You can just eat your meals immediately as soon as you wake up from your awesome sleep. You can just ask them for allowance or even some other help apart from financial crisis you are facing. Actually, you don't have problems with budgeting because you have your mom or your dad to do it for you. Everything, almost, is given to you for free. But, when you start living on your own, it is quite a different story.
CONS:
1. You budget your own money.
You're parents are not there to support you anymore. Therefore, it's time to practice some budgeting skills on your own. At first, you find it a hard time but later on you'll be able to realize that it's not easy to do it and how money runs in cycles from the time you have them in your hand. You'll even realize that you need to do some sacrifices of shopping, etc. just to make your budget enough for a week, perhaps.
2. You buy your own needs and wants.
Since you are now on your own feet, somehow, you must have to think that no one is there to serve you the meals for the day. Thus, you have to do it on yourself. If you wish to eat something, then buy some from the nearest store, etc. In short, you have your choice to be hungry or not. When you want to have something for your personal hygiene, etc. maybe, no one is there to buy for you. Instead, do it on your own. Face the consequences if you forgot to buy sanitary napkins during your first day of menstruation. Just a concrete example (for girls).
3. You miss your family back in your hometown.
Actually, this is the most challenging part especially for those who lived away from parents for the first time. Because of the challenging encounters faced alone, you started to feel the need to be with them. And because of that, you are starting to miss them. That's why you even have to include calls and texts, or even Internet (pocket WiFi/at least, there is a good signal. This time in my place, it sucks!) from your budget so you can have contact with them at least.
4. You have to face problems alone.
No one would be there to comfort you whenever you have problems. So, you have the freedom to cry all night just to release your sadness and annoyance to the new lifestyle you are having. It is not easy to live alone and away from your hometown and at the same time adjusting to the new and strange cultures of the surrounding people in the new home you are living.
PROS:
1. You have to learn to be a superwoman somehow.
Since you are alone, no one is there to comfort you or do something for you in behalf, it is the right time to unleash the superwoman in you. This is also the right time to know yourself as an individual and what your true adherences are especially your strength (to its limits).
2. You have time to know yourself more.
Your true beliefs, values, rights and wrongs, etc. are being tested, too. So, practice it and enjoy being independent. At this time, you are already aware of your own limits and also your strengths and weaknesses. At least, it's an advantage for the upcoming challenges that are bigger than today. When you are able to master the skills of independence, you have come to make own decisions which are not dictated or made by other people. It's your own. Thus, you are able to see and to fee the consequences of every decision you make. Therefore, you have bigger chances to make wiser decisions in the future.
3. You are far better than those other young adults still dependent from parents.
In the Philippine culture, we are aware of the fact that even those people who are of adult age are still in the dependence of their parents. It's a sort of culture and we know that it's difficult to face it out. Try to see them when they will move or have their own family, you will notice that they have hard time to make things work. Why? Because at their young age, they are not able to stand on their own and experience independence once in a while.
Author's Notes:
It's my first time to be away from my parents for months. So, that's why it's a bit strange for me to live alone somehow. I'm just hundreds of miles away from my parents now because of my studies. In my new place and room, I'm with my cousin though but still, it's different. We have different lives to move and to live. So, we don't influence each other that much when it comes to decisions. So, that's why I've come up with these ideas in this blog based from my experiences. I'm positive I will be able to survive this! Geh! Geh! Geh!
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