Nur jetzt habe ich ein E-Book gelesen am "The Logic of Love". Es ist der Titel mit Stefan Molyneaux als Autor. Er sagt da dass Liebe ist noch nur fühlen aber noch ein Verb. Es braucht Tun. Wie? Wie jetzt spreche ich auf Deutsch Sprache obwohl er ist Schwierig für mich aber noch benutzen. Warum? Doch, Liebe. Aber, das sind alles. Ich kann nicht ja Deutsch sprechen nicht mehr. Aber dass bedeutet nicht ich habe mir kein Liebe. Sehr dumm Ahnung.
Well, a lot of people are simply telling "I love you". It sounds so romantic and rejuvenating. But, what they don't understand that love has its sub-contents and sub-philosophies that lie underneath the big L word. Thus, having several mistakes out of their illusions created by mind on how they look love.
Many have known that love is something felt from the inside. Thus, even telling they love the person but they only love him for what she only sees and her for what he only sees and vice versa. But, real love is different. It's not just a feeling, a satisfying feeling of flesh and mind. But, it is an action that requires hard work and sacrifices.
Our parents are just one of the few examples we can recognize of real love. No matter how hard headed we are as kids or as their children, but still they are able to welcome us with warm heart and arms open wide. No matter how we fail them, they are still able to repress the feeling of disappointment and let love overpower them. But this doesn't mean, it's a totally highlighting the abusive-oppressive thing among children-parents relationship but just a brief view on how our parents love us, for real.
Now, let's take the other side. How about our partners? Are we able to accept them and love them for real? For no matter who they are? This is not an easy concept. There are a lot of things we ought to consider as part of the "id-ego" mechanism of humankind. But, forgetting the intellectual side of it, let's go deeper towards its deepest philosophies.
According to the author, love is not just a statement but rather an action to make to prove its worth and its existence. Yeah, it's true. We will know true and super real love if we are able to make things out of our comfort zone specifically to the persons we most love, and most especially if what we are doing is really for them. Only a small percentage remains to yourself then.
Love is not just a painting you chose to buy but when you arrive at home, you'll repaint it with your own desired designs. It is not just a mannequin to dress to what you want your partner looks and appears to the society to make your ego satisfied. No! Love requires acceptance. Whether he or she is fat, thin, or whatever, accept your partner for who he or she is. You can't just love him for what you just want but you love him because of him and how he really appears and acts.
Zum Schluss, love is ein Verb, noch nicht nur Gefühl. :)
Sunday, September 28, 2014
Saturday, September 27, 2014
Vor 30 Jahre Alt: Was mache ich?
Wie alles Frauen der Welt, wir haben groß Träumen. Beide selbst und ändern. Wie alles Frauen auch, ich habe mir Träumen. Ach, genug Deutsch. Ich spreche jetzt auf English. Doch!
Well, like other women in the world, we all have our sets of dreams. Both for ourselves and for other people. Like all the women in the world, I have also my own sets of dreams. Actually, there a lot of them. But mainly, among the thousands of dreams that I have in mind and have desired since before, is to be successful. In whatever terms, in whatever means. To live life to the fullest and be the happiest woman on earth. For me.
It may sound selfish though but actually it's not. I am the kind of person who would be happy if I see other people happy, too. And most of all, if I can see my family in fullest comfort, I'd be rather most happy. Right now, I'm still in the process of building myself. Trying to figure out what I really want and what I wanted and desired. For several times, actually nth time, I'm exploring more and more. And what I've only got is the idea of making my family happy. For me, sacrifices are worth making if I just see them in utmost prosperity, I'm already okay and relieved. I think that's the major part of my dreams apart from having my selfish dreams to be on top priority. It's just part of it. Why?
Unlike other people out there, they have certain goals of being the top earner or businessmen per se, or something specific. But, I really don't have. Yeah, I have the heart to teach, but I also want other stuff, like pursue fine arts, etc. So, basically, I don't know. I also want to pursue Ph.D. in any academic field. That I don't know. Just now, all I have in mind is the idea to be a successful woman for my family and for my future family.
That's why I am writing this blog to be a record of what I am thinking now. So, to see my progress of my attainments in life. There are a lot of things in mind now. But so far, I have my fullest priority: To go abroad and live life with my husband. And things go along the way, by then.
God bless me.
Well, like other women in the world, we all have our sets of dreams. Both for ourselves and for other people. Like all the women in the world, I have also my own sets of dreams. Actually, there a lot of them. But mainly, among the thousands of dreams that I have in mind and have desired since before, is to be successful. In whatever terms, in whatever means. To live life to the fullest and be the happiest woman on earth. For me.
It may sound selfish though but actually it's not. I am the kind of person who would be happy if I see other people happy, too. And most of all, if I can see my family in fullest comfort, I'd be rather most happy. Right now, I'm still in the process of building myself. Trying to figure out what I really want and what I wanted and desired. For several times, actually nth time, I'm exploring more and more. And what I've only got is the idea of making my family happy. For me, sacrifices are worth making if I just see them in utmost prosperity, I'm already okay and relieved. I think that's the major part of my dreams apart from having my selfish dreams to be on top priority. It's just part of it. Why?
Unlike other people out there, they have certain goals of being the top earner or businessmen per se, or something specific. But, I really don't have. Yeah, I have the heart to teach, but I also want other stuff, like pursue fine arts, etc. So, basically, I don't know. I also want to pursue Ph.D. in any academic field. That I don't know. Just now, all I have in mind is the idea to be a successful woman for my family and for my future family.
That's why I am writing this blog to be a record of what I am thinking now. So, to see my progress of my attainments in life. There are a lot of things in mind now. But so far, I have my fullest priority: To go abroad and live life with my husband. And things go along the way, by then.
God bless me.
Nach ein Monat: Wir haben gesehen
I guess this part is not rare among those who are into long distance relationships. And I guess that everyone with this situation is feeling the same way as I do now. And for me, it's not that easy.
Everyone does not believe with such existence and not everyone is able to accept this fact that it works and it really exists. It's really hard to prove it unless we are able to see each other by then. But now, it's getting closer.
We haven't seen each other for a month through Skype since I have stayed here in Makati. No internet connection. No TV. No radio. Everything static. Seems like in the Stone Age. Sounds weird for such a "business center" area. I only got my phones and my laptop with me, hoping that I could get a good connection. But, still, same as in my hometown, I haven't. It's gotten even worse.
So, yeah, we haven't seen each other for a month. And it's not really usual since we do chat almost everyday. But, since then, when I got here, we just call (actually he calls), text (via WhatsApp), and now, at last, Skyping. Although having a pocket WiFi device with me is expensive for me, but still I have to have it to have a good connection, at least. (Since the phone with WhatsApp was dead for good). So, I am really happy now that I see him and I could at least more than before. So, well, this time this is getting exciting.
I have nothing to think more but exact happiness. I feel so good today. Super! :)
Everyone does not believe with such existence and not everyone is able to accept this fact that it works and it really exists. It's really hard to prove it unless we are able to see each other by then. But now, it's getting closer.
We haven't seen each other for a month through Skype since I have stayed here in Makati. No internet connection. No TV. No radio. Everything static. Seems like in the Stone Age. Sounds weird for such a "business center" area. I only got my phones and my laptop with me, hoping that I could get a good connection. But, still, same as in my hometown, I haven't. It's gotten even worse.
So, yeah, we haven't seen each other for a month. And it's not really usual since we do chat almost everyday. But, since then, when I got here, we just call (actually he calls), text (via WhatsApp), and now, at last, Skyping. Although having a pocket WiFi device with me is expensive for me, but still I have to have it to have a good connection, at least. (Since the phone with WhatsApp was dead for good). So, I am really happy now that I see him and I could at least more than before. So, well, this time this is getting exciting.
I have nothing to think more but exact happiness. I feel so good today. Super! :)
Thursday, September 25, 2014
Pros and Cons when living alone/with independence at a young age
It seems like life is easy when you're still on total dependence from your parents or so. You can just eat your meals immediately as soon as you wake up from your awesome sleep. You can just ask them for allowance or even some other help apart from financial crisis you are facing. Actually, you don't have problems with budgeting because you have your mom or your dad to do it for you. Everything, almost, is given to you for free. But, when you start living on your own, it is quite a different story.
CONS:
1. You budget your own money.
You're parents are not there to support you anymore. Therefore, it's time to practice some budgeting skills on your own. At first, you find it a hard time but later on you'll be able to realize that it's not easy to do it and how money runs in cycles from the time you have them in your hand. You'll even realize that you need to do some sacrifices of shopping, etc. just to make your budget enough for a week, perhaps.
2. You buy your own needs and wants.
Since you are now on your own feet, somehow, you must have to think that no one is there to serve you the meals for the day. Thus, you have to do it on yourself. If you wish to eat something, then buy some from the nearest store, etc. In short, you have your choice to be hungry or not. When you want to have something for your personal hygiene, etc. maybe, no one is there to buy for you. Instead, do it on your own. Face the consequences if you forgot to buy sanitary napkins during your first day of menstruation. Just a concrete example (for girls).
3. You miss your family back in your hometown.
Actually, this is the most challenging part especially for those who lived away from parents for the first time. Because of the challenging encounters faced alone, you started to feel the need to be with them. And because of that, you are starting to miss them. That's why you even have to include calls and texts, or even Internet (pocket WiFi/at least, there is a good signal. This time in my place, it sucks!) from your budget so you can have contact with them at least.
4. You have to face problems alone.
No one would be there to comfort you whenever you have problems. So, you have the freedom to cry all night just to release your sadness and annoyance to the new lifestyle you are having. It is not easy to live alone and away from your hometown and at the same time adjusting to the new and strange cultures of the surrounding people in the new home you are living.
PROS:
1. You have to learn to be a superwoman somehow.
Since you are alone, no one is there to comfort you or do something for you in behalf, it is the right time to unleash the superwoman in you. This is also the right time to know yourself as an individual and what your true adherences are especially your strength (to its limits).
2. You have time to know yourself more.
Your true beliefs, values, rights and wrongs, etc. are being tested, too. So, practice it and enjoy being independent. At this time, you are already aware of your own limits and also your strengths and weaknesses. At least, it's an advantage for the upcoming challenges that are bigger than today. When you are able to master the skills of independence, you have come to make own decisions which are not dictated or made by other people. It's your own. Thus, you are able to see and to fee the consequences of every decision you make. Therefore, you have bigger chances to make wiser decisions in the future.
3. You are far better than those other young adults still dependent from parents.
In the Philippine culture, we are aware of the fact that even those people who are of adult age are still in the dependence of their parents. It's a sort of culture and we know that it's difficult to face it out. Try to see them when they will move or have their own family, you will notice that they have hard time to make things work. Why? Because at their young age, they are not able to stand on their own and experience independence once in a while.
Author's Notes:
It's my first time to be away from my parents for months. So, that's why it's a bit strange for me to live alone somehow. I'm just hundreds of miles away from my parents now because of my studies. In my new place and room, I'm with my cousin though but still, it's different. We have different lives to move and to live. So, we don't influence each other that much when it comes to decisions. So, that's why I've come up with these ideas in this blog based from my experiences. I'm positive I will be able to survive this! Geh! Geh! Geh!
CONS:
1. You budget your own money.
You're parents are not there to support you anymore. Therefore, it's time to practice some budgeting skills on your own. At first, you find it a hard time but later on you'll be able to realize that it's not easy to do it and how money runs in cycles from the time you have them in your hand. You'll even realize that you need to do some sacrifices of shopping, etc. just to make your budget enough for a week, perhaps.
2. You buy your own needs and wants.
Since you are now on your own feet, somehow, you must have to think that no one is there to serve you the meals for the day. Thus, you have to do it on yourself. If you wish to eat something, then buy some from the nearest store, etc. In short, you have your choice to be hungry or not. When you want to have something for your personal hygiene, etc. maybe, no one is there to buy for you. Instead, do it on your own. Face the consequences if you forgot to buy sanitary napkins during your first day of menstruation. Just a concrete example (for girls).
3. You miss your family back in your hometown.
Actually, this is the most challenging part especially for those who lived away from parents for the first time. Because of the challenging encounters faced alone, you started to feel the need to be with them. And because of that, you are starting to miss them. That's why you even have to include calls and texts, or even Internet (pocket WiFi/at least, there is a good signal. This time in my place, it sucks!) from your budget so you can have contact with them at least.
4. You have to face problems alone.
No one would be there to comfort you whenever you have problems. So, you have the freedom to cry all night just to release your sadness and annoyance to the new lifestyle you are having. It is not easy to live alone and away from your hometown and at the same time adjusting to the new and strange cultures of the surrounding people in the new home you are living.
PROS:
1. You have to learn to be a superwoman somehow.
Since you are alone, no one is there to comfort you or do something for you in behalf, it is the right time to unleash the superwoman in you. This is also the right time to know yourself as an individual and what your true adherences are especially your strength (to its limits).
2. You have time to know yourself more.
Your true beliefs, values, rights and wrongs, etc. are being tested, too. So, practice it and enjoy being independent. At this time, you are already aware of your own limits and also your strengths and weaknesses. At least, it's an advantage for the upcoming challenges that are bigger than today. When you are able to master the skills of independence, you have come to make own decisions which are not dictated or made by other people. It's your own. Thus, you are able to see and to fee the consequences of every decision you make. Therefore, you have bigger chances to make wiser decisions in the future.
3. You are far better than those other young adults still dependent from parents.
In the Philippine culture, we are aware of the fact that even those people who are of adult age are still in the dependence of their parents. It's a sort of culture and we know that it's difficult to face it out. Try to see them when they will move or have their own family, you will notice that they have hard time to make things work. Why? Because at their young age, they are not able to stand on their own and experience independence once in a while.
Author's Notes:
It's my first time to be away from my parents for months. So, that's why it's a bit strange for me to live alone somehow. I'm just hundreds of miles away from my parents now because of my studies. In my new place and room, I'm with my cousin though but still, it's different. We have different lives to move and to live. So, we don't influence each other that much when it comes to decisions. So, that's why I've come up with these ideas in this blog based from my experiences. I'm positive I will be able to survive this! Geh! Geh! Geh!
Sunday, September 7, 2014
Eine Woche im Makati Stadt
It has been almost a week since I arrived here in Makati City. At the first glance, I was then amazed with the skies above that people don't see when they're down there. But, way up there, riding the plane, I was really surprised with the feeling of such amazement. Apart from the experience of amazement, I was quite surprised with the airplane turns. Almost 180 degrees. Isn't it amazing? Sounds like I'm riding an air fighter in a war. Hahaha! But, in general, when I started to depart from the airport from Cagayan de Oro, my hometown, I already started to feel the sadness since I have to leave the town for long. I know it's just around 2-3 months but, it's a complete absence that I will surely miss.
Ankunft von Haus:
Gegen 7 Uhr, mit meine Eltern zusammen, ich hätte nach meine Tante gefahren. Ich hätte mein Onkel gewarten zu reisen nach Airport mit Auto zusammen. Ich weiß es nicht wenn das ist in gut Deutsch grammatik. Hahaha! Ich sollte brauche mehr und mehr Deutsch Wörte und lerne ich gut grammatik von Deutschkurs. Ich sollte! Ich wonnte Master meine Wörter auf Deutsch. Nun, überhaupt, yeah, Ich war im NHA (place of my cousin) und habe meine Fruhstuck (viele) isst da und habe für mein Onkel warten. Also, gegen halb acht Uhr, wir noch Ankunft von Haus. Ich sage mein letzte "Goodbye" meine Eltern bin ich fangen für Monate vor an.
Anfangen im Makati:
Nach ein Stunde reisen durch Flugzeug, ich habe glucklich dass bin ich viel Himmel uber viele Strasse gesehen. Es ist wie in auch Himmel! Ach, sie sind sehr schon! Ich kann nicht jeden Tag die Himmel sehen, oder? Also, ich habe Amüsant! Also, wenn ich im Makati geangekommen, ich war überrascht! Warum? Nun, ich nur sehe neu Kultur, höre neu Sprache von viele Leute. Also, ich sage mir "Ich sollte spreche mehr Philippinisch heute und verstehe auch!" Ich brauche mehr Hannah bedanken für mir ihre Hilfe.Also, heute, ich habe kein Problem im Philippinisch beide sprechen und verstehen.
Im Makati, ich sehe viele groß Gebäude hier. Sehen auch breit Straße, schnell Autos. Alles! Sie sind neu fur mir! Aber, jetzt, sie sind nicht neu weil ich sehe alles jeden Tag, auch ganze Tag.
Wie bin ich hier im Makati?
Nun, überhaupt, alles sind gut, sehr gut. Ich übe mehr und mehr Deutsch wahrend gehe im Malls, und so weiter spazieren. Ich mache sehr gut im der Schule, also ich habe kein Problem meine studieren. Hehe! Das ist alles für heute. Ich sollte schlafe jetzt gehen, noch müde von studieren Deutsch! Ach! Ach!
Ankunft von Haus:
Gegen 7 Uhr, mit meine Eltern zusammen, ich hätte nach meine Tante gefahren. Ich hätte mein Onkel gewarten zu reisen nach Airport mit Auto zusammen. Ich weiß es nicht wenn das ist in gut Deutsch grammatik. Hahaha! Ich sollte brauche mehr und mehr Deutsch Wörte und lerne ich gut grammatik von Deutschkurs. Ich sollte! Ich wonnte Master meine Wörter auf Deutsch. Nun, überhaupt, yeah, Ich war im NHA (place of my cousin) und habe meine Fruhstuck (viele) isst da und habe für mein Onkel warten. Also, gegen halb acht Uhr, wir noch Ankunft von Haus. Ich sage mein letzte "Goodbye" meine Eltern bin ich fangen für Monate vor an.
Anfangen im Makati:
Nach ein Stunde reisen durch Flugzeug, ich habe glucklich dass bin ich viel Himmel uber viele Strasse gesehen. Es ist wie in auch Himmel! Ach, sie sind sehr schon! Ich kann nicht jeden Tag die Himmel sehen, oder? Also, ich habe Amüsant! Also, wenn ich im Makati geangekommen, ich war überrascht! Warum? Nun, ich nur sehe neu Kultur, höre neu Sprache von viele Leute. Also, ich sage mir "Ich sollte spreche mehr Philippinisch heute und verstehe auch!" Ich brauche mehr Hannah bedanken für mir ihre Hilfe.Also, heute, ich habe kein Problem im Philippinisch beide sprechen und verstehen.
Im Makati, ich sehe viele groß Gebäude hier. Sehen auch breit Straße, schnell Autos. Alles! Sie sind neu fur mir! Aber, jetzt, sie sind nicht neu weil ich sehe alles jeden Tag, auch ganze Tag.
Wie bin ich hier im Makati?
Nun, überhaupt, alles sind gut, sehr gut. Ich übe mehr und mehr Deutsch wahrend gehe im Malls, und so weiter spazieren. Ich mache sehr gut im der Schule, also ich habe kein Problem meine studieren. Hehe! Das ist alles für heute. Ich sollte schlafe jetzt gehen, noch müde von studieren Deutsch! Ach! Ach!
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