How Broken Promises Troubles Relationships

"Promises can be broken." I guess anyone can say that. It's a common saying. Well, nowadays.
I wonder why people can do that to others well in fact, when you give a certain promise even to simple things can make troubles or conflicts if not made possible.

Merriam-Webster Dictionaries helped me define what a promise is. According to them, it is a statement telling that you will DEFINITELY do something or that something will DEFINITELY happen in the future. It also a REASON to EXPECT that something will happen in the future.

Thus, making promises is not just giving off something you intend to make for the other person but also it involves A TOTAL COMMITMENT TO IT.

But, what if the other person fails to make it?
This is where DEFINITELY trouble comes in, especially to couples.

1. Broken promises always top the reason for broken relationships.

Basically, this is because the other person tends to expect a lot if the partner is making any promises which aren't made possible. On the other hand, if the simple promise failed to satisfy the other may lead to distrust to the partner, which later on, can cause break ups.

2. Broken promises creates big negative impact to the partner.

As grievous as it sounds, but this can severely affects the partner especially if they're already married. How? Broken promises is based on trust. But, if the partner tends to make frequent unrealistic promises, it can basically lead to lack of trust which is unhealthy for the relationships.

3. Broken promises adds big negative stress to the couples.

It directly links to the previous point where broken promises can create big negative impacts to the partner. In this note, it also adds negative stress to the couples, too. They're directly proportional to the other.

4. Broken promises disappoints couples.

Of course, when you're making promises to your partner, of course, your partner tends to expect a lot from that promise though it's just some small acts like a vacation, doing the laundry by the next day, etc. Something like these small acts, if undone, can cause conflicts immediately. Small acts like that are also considered your small promises, which you are definitely expected to do.

5. Broken promises leads to break ups and/or divorce.

Try to review the previous points. Definitely, if your act of breaking of promises is such a casual habit, don't be surprised if your partner will eventually withdraw from the relationship.

According to Knoji.com, broken relationships and most especially broken marriage is basically established with just a simple stupid act of breaking small promises. Because of these broken small promises, it usually creates conflicts between couples. If left unsolved, the partner usually withdraws from their relationship. Therefore, it ends with a sad love story. It may sound so stupid and so small to be reactive. But if done frequently, and consecutively, it naturally makes the other partner feel unworthy. Why?

Just come to think of it, if your boyfriend says,"Hey, I will take you to dinner date in your birthday." Of course, you are expecting it. So, you prepared for it. You bought the nicest dress, etc. to make yourself look good. But then, when that day came, your boyfriend suddenly says, "Oh, I've got to make something. Sorry. I can't make it."

Another instance, if your wife says, "Honey, don't buy a pair of shoes now, I'll buy you one when my salary is released." So, you didn't bought a new pair of shoes since your wife promised to buy you one. However, when the salary day came, you're now asking for her promise. "Hey, where's the new pair of shoes you promised, honey?" Oh, your wife forgot. Well, it's okay for forget if she says, "Oh, I forgot. Okay, let's go and buy." But, if your wife says, "Sorry, hon, but I can't buy you a new one 'cause I bought some new clothes."

How would you feel about it? Do you feel good? Try thinking that he will do it several times. How would you feel?

That's basically how broken promises troubles relationships. So, be careful what you promise if you wish to have a long-term romantic bond, relationship, marriage with your partner, your husband/wife.