A lot may wonder why in the midst of the heartbreaking realities of marriage trends the majority of the society today, there are still couples who are able to stick to their vows in their lifetime. There are several examples like Neil Sedaka and Leba Strassberg who have been married since 1962; Bono and Ali Hewson, married in 1982. These power couples are able to surpass the challenges together as one. And these couples admired me most.
I'm aware that marriage is a roller coaster ride. It's not just a world of unreal imagery of couples but rather, a sustainable hard work that makes up the strength of the couples. Divorce has been legalized from the past years. In the Philippines, we are yet to become one of the countries to have it legalized since it's a contradictory to the Christian doctrines of marriage which the two married people should stick to their vows until the end. That is why, separating or divorcing in this country seems to be impossible without money and influence.
A lot of young couples or those couples who have just started their relationship, have these myths in mind that they thought may affect them especially their marriage.
Myth #1: Marrying too young increases risks of divorce
However, although the world is oriented to the thought of gaming the concept of marriage, still, not all couples are believing to this kind of idea. With this thought, I really admire to these people who are able to do this though some married at an early age. Some married in their early 20's just like Neil Sedaka who was just 23 years old at the time when he married Leba. Ali Hewson, on the other hand, was just 21 when she married Bono, who was just around a year older when they got married. This just means that age doesn't matter when it comes to marital responsibilities.
Myth #2: Astrologically incompatible
A lot of sites are telling stars matching between couples will determine how they are when they married and how they will affect marital life. As such, like in my case. I am a Sagittarius and my boyfriend is a Cancer. All sites are telling that this combination will have a turbulent marriage because of bad combination of personalities. They even said that this combination should be avoided. I told myself, if we don't match because it will just lead to turbulent relationship, why we almost match to anything even right now? I know we are still in the stage of not-yet-married, and I am aware that there will be changes once we will get into the situation, but there will be not much changes after all. Our interests, hobbies, likes, dislikes, will be just the same as it is. With these thoughts, I realized that the stars don't determine my life, because it's my decision and my behavior that will affect my relationship to him.
Myth #3: As long as you're in love, you will last.
Yeah, being in the phase where the oxytocin, a hormone responsible for making people in love, is still at its peak, it will create an impression that the couple will last. But, to be realistic enough, let's take a note that it's not just the being-in-love state will be the key to a happy and a long-lasting relationship. What if, you don't have stable finances and you're already married, what will happen if crisis in the future family will come. Good for those self-employed, although they don't have fixed income, at least they are earning and they are sure money will just be around. How about those other who don't have a job? Or, still fickle to working decisions, what will happen? To have a happy marriage, couples should think that it's not just love who will sustain the bond among them, but also the other key factors like trust, financial stability, acceptance, patience, faith, and prayer. With these things, for sure, the couples will have the strongest bond and will have an assurance that their marriage will last.
With these few myths that I just thought of impromptu, while typing the words from my mind, I hope these will help us sustain the "Power of Two". This is how God made marriage. Two different people lovingly cuddles each other while being responsible of their demeanor through respect and acceptance as well as trust with their partners.
Author's Notes:
These things that I have noted are directly from my mind. A direct thought that just pop out and directly encode. No editing. Just a mere thought, with a couple of research.
Behind this reason why I managed to write this blog is to express how I love to have a family of my own and really establish a stable relationship with my boyfriend and have a stable and strong foundation of love and in the future, marriage. It may not be simple as is sounds, but then again, with hard work and understanding from the two of us, no matter how much differences we may have and no matter how the stars denies the compatibility of our lives, it's still the acceptance and trust with the power of our love for each other that will lock the possibilities of a heartbreaking experience. We both failed from the pasts. Hence, these encounters taught us how to prevent that same pain again for each other. With God guiding us all along, we both believe that this relationship that we have right now will last until our lifetime.
I love you, Schatz! So much. God bless us both, dear. :)
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