Ingredients for a Happy and Contented Relationship

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Individuals, as human as we are, have different unique ways based upon how we act, behave, like, dislike and so on. We have different set of qualities that are exclusively possessed only within, and may affect each other in the long run. But, we know that these are not easy to deal with since maybe we have grown up to this routine or our parents influence us to act like this or perhaps, our experiences shaped us like the way we are in the present. There are a lot of reasons to dig. Thus, in relationships, which two different people are involved in it, will likely to have difficulties in handling a strong romance with each other. Regardless of this fact, it has been an inevitable obstacle. However, there are still a lot of couples are able to strive to succeed to this kind of challenge. They are able to find some ingredients that will help them in coping their differences towards a happy and contented relationships.

1. Respect. 
This is one value that every couple should be able to realize. Although, yeah, the two of you are able to adjust to one another since you do love each other but realistically, there are still overwhelming differences that may be difficult to handle at first, but with respect from one another, these differences will be accepted. If arguments arises due to our conflicting differences, just remind yourself that you are hitting on the issue, not the person. Hence, resolve the issue without creating damage to our partners.

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2. Acceptance.
In connection to respect, acceptance comes along the way. Perhaps, your boyfriend or girlfriend may have something that you hate for example, in my case, my boyfriend is a smoker since youth, the only thing that we can do is to accept that fact. By accepting that fact, it doesn't mean that you just leave him/her destroy his/her life by leaving it just like that, but it will be a jump start for us to see the whole being of our partner. In this way, we will be able to identify that unconditional love for him/her. As their partner, always remember that we are entrusted with their lives. Instead on hitting on the negatives and nag, help him improving his self for his good sake without nagging him.

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3. Trust.
As you accept partner as he is, trust develops in the latter. Trust-building is one of the most challenging part of the relationship. Of course, we don't want to be hurt or to be betrayed by anyone, even the most loved. This is a natural human coping mechanism. Since we are in a relationship, no matter how challenging it is to develop trust to your partner, this is still a requirement. We commonly hear, "without trust is without love". It is true. We cannot see the value of our partner if we are not trusting them. We just feel that we are trapped with something intangible. Thus, there is no romantic or even peaceful atmosphere whenever you are with each other. This is totally a disaster!

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4. Love. 
This is one of the most seen ingredient among the others to achieve a happy and contented relationship. With love, it comes in different levels. First, is the physical attraction and the second is the responsibility, which is the deeper type. It also comes in different languages. Therefore, there are many ways to express love and feel loved. It comes with verbal or vocal way of expressing and, also just mere action. "Action speaks louder than words" as they say. Regardless of how varied and creative we may express it to our partners, one thing that we should keep in mind that it is the best if we express them everyday. If it is not that much to us, we can express them every hour. It's so cheezy, right? But, admit it, saying "I love you" or being told so, will really melt down our hearts, especially if they are from the man/woman we do love.

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5. Faith.
To have a secured stronghold to our relationships, we must really remind ourselves that we are not just to make efforts of it, but also, pray for it. God created love. Hence, He knows what to do and instructs us what will be our steps to retain the strength of it midst the overwhelming differences that we have towards our partners. Because no matter how difficult it is nor no matter how overwhelming it is, with God, everything is possible. That is why, with my boyfriend right now, he may not know it, but I am always praying that we will last. I know we both know that we can't control future events, but we can ask God to prepare us, strengthen us both to overcome different struggles. We are both not religious, but we do acknowledge His presence to us. We are in a long distance relationship right now, but no distance can keep us apart.

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Author's Notes: 
As I've stated earlier, me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship. A lot of articles are saying pros and cons of it. But, personally, what I do adhere is that relationships both long distance and not, as long as we have these five important ingredients for a happy and contented relationship, we can go stronger and we can last forever. Again, God created love. Just pray and everything will be made possible. For sure, we will meet someday and make a new life together.

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God bless you in your relationships! I wish you happiness and contentment with each other! :)