1. I like the view.
For me, seeing new faces in my eyes really look stunning and hot to me regardless to wherever they are from. I have been chatting with so many foreigners across the globe so, I have really observed different faces of different races. From Europe, to Americas and even Asia. But I seem to concentrate to Europe and Northern America.
2. Goal for financial stability.
As funny as it seems, but I could speak the general tongue of the common Filipina. We all want financial stability and we don't want to settle for less. Thus, we join different chat rooms and start chatting to different foreigners in different rooms. I could remember asking each them, "Do you have work?", "What is your work?" That has been the question usually the first or the second of the list to determine if I could land to a better man with a stable job. If not a job, at least he has a business. In that way, I could assure myself that I will be able to belong with a stable man with a stable finances than those who have no job nor business to handle. So, common Filipina really has that kind of thing in mind. Hoping for greener pastures abroad with her man of her choice (of course, with love) which will give her a lot more opportunities to help her family here back in the Philippines.
3. Intention to be historical in the family bloodline.
This is really freaky to say but yes, I do have that kind of thinking why I chose to be one of the Filipinas who really wanted a foreign boyfriend. It has been 100 years or so that we don't have the foreign blood within the family. The last ones where still in the 1900s or even before that, because they said, my grandparents are Spanish mestiza or mestizo. So, in this case, I need to create something historic in the family. So, I joined the club.
4. Getting into a challenge for LDR (Long Distance Relationship).
Well, yeah, I am into LDRs. So, I really assure myself that I could really survive this kind of set-up with my current boyfriend now. But, even before I met him, it has been my thing to go for LDRs and try to challenge myself if that is really possible. A lot of stories are heard in the surroundings that there are a lot of couples who have succeeded in this kind of journeys thus, I tried it myself. Personally, this kind of set-up is the safest that I could have to prevent from pre-marital sexual intercourse because if I have my boyfriend just around the corner, I could end up to the unplanned events which are really inappropriate. I know we have different controls or techniques or strategies for abstinence (well, that's another story).
I am aware that not all of the Filipinas are able to cope with the differences of cultures both Philippine and the origin of her man. In my case, we have Philippine and German cultures to complement. Differences are really observable especially that he is living there for more than 20 years of his life and Philippine culture has been my lifestyle. However, I am still curious about studying other cultures and try to live with that particular culture. Like I said, I am with my German boyfriend. Thus, I am studying both his language and his societal customs, etiquette, manners, and so on. And he also does in his part. He studies Visayan, which is my vernacular language, culture, etc. So, in this way, we are able to complement with each other. So far, it has been well with each other. No arguments, no misunderstandings. I am really happy with that. I don't know with the other Filipinas but I also heard misunderstandings between the couples thus lead to separations or break-ups due to inability to consider openness to the concept that the couples have different cultures. Hence, it is the responsibility of each other to acquaint well by sharing stuff like stories, videos in YouTube, and even talk to the family members of each other. In that way, it could prevent misunderstandings between the two.
6. Wanting to have a mestiza kiddo
It has been a kind of amazement for me to bear a mestiza child on my own and rear him/her with both Filipino and German upbringing. I really wonder how would my child look like especially that the German blood will be mixed with the Filipino physical traits. I know that will happen soon. I'm really excited. Anyhow, it is also like a curiosity among the Filipinas to how their children looks if they have mixed races. This is a bit related to the third reason which is about the family bloodline since we are talking about family here. But, the angle of this part is within the child per se and to what kind of feeling would it be to bear a mestiza from our own wombs. So, I could say, this is something dramatic for us Filipinas that's why we always go for foreigners for boyfriends and soon, husbands.
Author's Notes:
Personally, since I am with my German boyfriend, I could say that I am one of the members of the club of Filipinas who wanted to have a foreign boyfriend. Nonetheless of the reasons, the one that overpowers among all is that we love each other. I love him and he does love me. That's the most important aspect if you try to delve to this kind of business (really LOL for the "business" word). Whatever reasons you have in mind, well, you can comment down below to whatever you have in mind about this blog. But, for real, I entered this interracial relationship because I wanted to and we both believe that we are destined for each other and God gave us each other to hold on and cling on to, to whatever that will happen to our lives since we both long for each other. Right now, we are still chatting via Skype everyday since in LDRs everyday communication is really that important especially that we are 1,000 miles apart. He is in Germany and I am here in the Philippines. But, we will meet this year for sure. Wait 'til the next blog! Tschüss!
This photo is taken during our conversations via Skype. :)
**I don't own some photos here so I deem acknowledge the owners of the photos used in this blog.
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