Hopeful of the Wedding Celebration's Success

Today, I am just here taking care of my aunt who has been sick for four days now. Everyone: my cousins, my aunts, my uncles, even my mother and sister were there in the grand celebration. Everyone's wishing for the wedding's success. God bless them.

As much as I wanted to go and enjoy with them, I can't. I have a big responsibility to make. And that is to take care of my aunt,who was once my yaya, tutor, the second mother.

Years back, when I was still around 6-month old baby, she had been there taking care of me. Though, I don't have any idea of her existence during those crucial times, she witnessed the most memorable events where I first learned things this world has prepared for me. My talents were exhibited during those early years, and also the possibility to be honorable and admirable through excellence in academics, were once taught by her. I first touched my favorite instrument, guitar, was inspired from her when she brought her guitar whenever she visited, during her schedule, which was then during the weekdays. During the weekends, on the other hand, she'll be staying in Mama Inday's house, the second eldest sister (since there are four of them including my mom and Madel). I first sang my first song when she brought a lot of music and song books and sang out loud, though I can't speak. Loud murmurs were surrounding the house the entire day. Neither did I realize, how huge her impact is to my life.

She was 30 years old when she took most of her time with me in 1992. When my mom and dad goes to work, she then acted as my second parent. I should like a foster parent. From the early morning until night time, she never failed monitoring my progress from school and even my social activities (going out with friends, touring around the hills and, several houses, not including my desperate and stupid behavior way back. Hehe). When I get sick, she just immediately respond without complains since phones at home were not yet existing during those times unlike today. In my academics, she became my awesome and strict tutor. She never wanted me to fail in all subject areas and did her best shot to teach me though she's not an education major. I could remember her scribbling, doodling a lot to make a sample test paper where I could practice at home and master the lessons for the next day's quiz or any classroom activities. She even slept so late at night just to finish them so I could study by the next day after my class. Apart from being my home teacher, she's also the cook in the house. She cooks every meal of the day. Breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I could clearly remember those times when she was still strong and healthy.

However, right now, she's now suffering from the complications of her diabetes. From her eyes, down to internal organs, slowly, she's starting to feel a lot of pains in her body. So, that is why, I am here with her. I chose to be with her than attend to my cousin's wedding. No matter how much I wanted to be with them and enjoy, I can' dare myself enjoying and be merry while Madel is suffering from her sickness.

While I'm here, right now, I just wish them the wedding ceremony's success. God bless them'

Dakong natun-an: An open letter in Visayan

Pasiuna 
Una sa tanan, kini ang pinakauna nako nga blog nga naka-Visayan. Wala lang, tistingan lang nako. At least, na-try nako mag-post in Visayan. Tanan man gud nakong mga gipang-post dinhi puro English. Wala koy gisulat diri nga nagpaila sa akong linggwahe nga akong nadak-an sa pipila ka tuig. Daghan ko'g mga rason nganong nag-desisyon ko nga magbuhat ani nga blog sa naingong diyalekto. Una, pipila na lang ka adlaw ang nabilin sa ako nga magbisaya kay tungod sunod Sabado, molargahay nako sa Manila which is Tagalog na ang ilang sinultihan. Siyempre, Bisaya gud ko. So, malamang mingawon ko sa mother tongue nako, kay puro na Tagalog akong isulti pag-abot nako dadto. Ikaduha nga rason nganong nag-Binisaya ko karon kay para magpaila nga Bisaya ko og wala ko'y plano nga ilimod kini sa katibuk-an. Ikatulo, sa sumusunod nga tuig nga siguro mahimo nako'ng inahan sa akong mga anak, at least, mabasahan nila ni og ila ning masabtan og maila nga kini ang akong sinultihan jud aside sa English, Tagalog og in the future, German, kung ma-master na nako. Hehe.

1. Ang akong paglarga. 
Karon Agosto 23, molargahay ko'g Manila para magtuon og German sa pipila ka mga bulan. Gikan Agosto hangtud Nobyembre, naa ko dadto. Ang rason pud nganong moadto ko'g Manila kay para mag-take og exam sa A1 nga gikinahanglan sa German Embassy para ma-approve akong mga papel para sa posibleng pag-migrate nako. Puhon, maayong Ginoo.

2. Ang akong gigikanan.
Gikan ko sa lugar nga Binisaya ang sinultihan. Og sa dihang diha ko gikan, akong ipanghambog nga Bisaya ko og dili ni angay nga akong ilimod sa kadaghanan labi na kung naa nako dadto.

3. Ang akong mga anak.
Labi na nga gapaduol na ang mga bulan nga ako maminyo na sa akong uyab nga German, sa akong edad, ako nang gi-expect nga mahimo jud kong inahan. Busa, para dili nako mahikaw ang akong pagka-Bisaya, ako silang tudluan og angay nila mahibaw-an ang gigikanan nako. Kung aha ko nagdako, nagdalaga, og nagminyo. Kung moabot ang adlaw nga ila ning mabasahan, wala koy ikamahay kay ako mang gipakita sa ilaha nga dili nako ihikaw sa ila nga Bisaya pud sila.

Sulat sa taga-sulat: 
Nalingaw ko og himo ani nga blog tungod kay Binisaya kini og pinakauna pud ni nga blog nako nga Binisaya. At least, naa ko'y gipang-post diri nga nagpaila jud sa akong diyalekto. Dili puro English. Mao ra ni sa pagkakaron. Salamat sa pagbasa.

Preparation for departure: Plane Ticket Booking Confirmed at last

Your booking confirmation.
Thank you for choosing Philippine Airlines.
Please be reminded that you have acknowledged and accepted PAL's online terms and conditions, as follows... Blah Blah Blah..

As of the moment, I already have the plane ticket of the airline I ever dreamed to ride on. Philippine Airlines. Literally, I am totally amazed with the feeling that I am now getting closer to this dream since when I was still a kid, that someday, I will be able to ride on to this plane where I could experience comfort and see how this most-sought airline has prepared to pamper passengers on board.

Source: Boring.ph

 

I just know some basic information about the said airline and I am not even paid to give a review on the experience. But, for my own diary of my experience, it's cool to blog it here. As far as I know, this airline is the flag carrier of the country. Thus, it is one of the most considered and chosen airline where people are giving much respect of. For me, other than those other airlines, this is one of what I admired. I don't know. Maybe, because a lot of people that I know always give me a remark that this airline is the best. Hence, I have in my mind the sort of excitement of my own experience whether I could grasp what it means to be in that plane. It just started with a dream. Now, it's becoming true. 

I went to the main office of the airline this afternoon and confirmed my booking. I made a friendly transaction with the agent [who was so friendly to me though I sought him so strict at first with his matching pilot-ish attire] and made a peaceful exit with a smile on my face. In my mind, all I thought was...At last, I will be riding this plane.

So, cool. For real. I have already my first flight experience but it wasn't that satisfying to me. Let's see what this year's flight could offer. I can't wait to experience it. 

However, though I have this excitement, still, there is that part where I'm a bit sad of. 

I will be far away from my family whom I stayed with for around 22 years now, since this is the first time in the family where one has to stay away for months. And so far, in the family's record, this has been the longest duration of a family member away from each other. I will be far away from my family for around 4 months. For me, it's a perfect mix of sweet sadness deep within. As my boyfriend asserted, "That will be the most memorable experience..." And I am really looking forward to it. 

 

Right now, I have my plane ticket with me. I just can't help it but watch it all the time. Hold it several times. Brag it to my mother and sister all the time. Why? Philippine Airlines is Philippine Airlines. The best-sought. The classy flight. My sister even wants to have one.  

 

Well, I guess that's it for now. Just expressing my thought. :) 

Tschuss!  

Some admirable traits I see worthy possession of a man

In as much as I would hate my father for being strict and fickle, he is my father and I love him. This was my perspective towards his image before I got to know him more.

I asked my mother about him. Courageously, I asked her about his behavior without our presence, without the presence of everyone. Just him and my mother. After a lengthy conversation, she arrive to the following summary of how she loves my father that is worth of her love (no matter how stubborn he is).

1. He is a man of promise. 
"Word of honor" as everyone notes it. For him, when he says something either a promise of time, thing, anything which he has given to anyone, he must make sure that he will make it possible. For example, when he informs my mother that "Ma, I will be here by 5PM." As expected, he is already there. Another instance, where he told us that we are stupid for not doing our promises to anyone like to our peers, cousins, etc. Even single promise like wanting to send money at this hour, at this day, which he told the person he owed to, he definitely makes it on time. For me, this is the trait I admired the most which I hope will be practiced with my future life. I, myself, is a person of promise. When I say, "See you later", no matter how busy I am, I really make sure that I will see that person since I gave my promise of seeing later. I got this from my father.

2. He loves dramatically his family. 
Even before they married with my mother, she has already observed that he is a bit exaggerated when it comes to love and emotions. I could say, he is really emotional type of man, trying to hide in his hard and stiff exterior. I didn't get this when I was younger, since all I just see is the exterior. I never get the chance to see and to know his depth soul. Just this time, that I realized that he also cries a lot when he even misses anyone of us, or with a simple fight or argument with anyone in the family. And no matter, how grievous our sins are, with a simple "Sorry, Pa." He cries and forgives. Personally, I admit, I love dramatically and I tend to share my overflowing emotions towards loving anyone. So, that's why I am really careful in choosing whom to love, because I am scared that anyone will hurt me again or even take me for granted.

3. He considers presence as the most valuable gift to his loved ones. 
He may not be able to see us in some matter of days or even months (for my German exams), but still, when we need him, he is always there. He doesn't allow his self to make anyone feel his absence. For him, presence is the best gift you can give to anyone and even the most valuable thing he can give to prove that his family is not taken for granted [no matter how busy he is nor how tired he is from work]. He makes sure that he has time for us. 

4. He is over-protective.
Yeah, this is natural to any father out there especially if their children is a girl. According to my mother, he is really protective to our welfare since he is really aiming that what his life before when he was in his youth. When he was young, he was not able to experience how a responsible father should act, behave, etc. So, he is really trying his best to give out his best for the best for his family. I really admire this trait since I am aware that working hard for somebody is not as easy as it sounds. It's easier to work for own interest than working hard to support anyone especially his family.

5. He is faithful. 
Both as a husband and as a father, he is the man of faithfulness. No matter how my mother's stubbornness irritates him, he still clings onto her. Through the ups and downs of the family, his endurance and unending love portrays a strong indicator of his faithfulness. Unlike any man out there, although considered their selves committed, but still, the "hormones" are unstoppable and still searching for another business to attend [if you know what I mean]. I really admire men who are exercising their faithfulness to the woman they committed and to the children he has swore.

6. He is organized. 
Both as a young man, or even as a father, organizational skills are a bit required. This is not just about being able to buy shelves and segregate papers from useful to scrap. But, it's also about how a man thinks and chooses to whatever steps or moves he has to make, facing varied consequences at the end. Regardless of that, for a man, especially for those who are already have a family, organizational skill is such a requirement to learn.

Why? The simple reason is that, how could the household be systematically functional if the man is not able to organize even his thoughts, his papers, his demeanor, his entire being as a man. How could a woman look up to him as a leader of the relationship or of the family if he is not even able to make smart and clever decisions? According to Bible, men are assigned by God for such leadership to both family and society. So, as a man, it's natural for women like me to look up to my man's decision although I have my own. For me, although we are both smart [me and my husband], I may have suggestions, but it's the man's word is considered the last word. It's applicable to the household as such, the man should be able to stand firm and quick with his decisions because he is programmed to lead his family or future family. As to my father, he is fickle-minded. He changes mindset. My mother, to balance the harmony of the house and maintain peace and order, she suggests. As daughters, also, helps him decide. But, it's still in himself, the last decision, which we're going to follow. 

Authors' Notes:
With these things I have observed from my father, I grew up thinking that the men are like him and do things as he does. With these things, I observed from my current boyfriend, who is also a father, he also acts the same like my father. But,well, of course, there are differences. But, in general, they act similar. So cool.
 
On the other hand, I just look up to whatever my husband decides especially towards household system. I may have my own decisions, but as married couples [which will be my pathway--clearly, where I am going], everything lies down to communication. Whether the husband's or the wife's decision will be followed or any of the two varied decisions will be compromised. But, as naturally formed and structured, the stronger decision lies in the hands of the man, husband, boyfriend. But that doesn't mean that he can control, manipulate, or dictate the freedom of speech and/or freedom to express opinions, of the other.

Again, to conclude, a man has to be responsible to everything he acts. He should act like a man, not as an immature idiot especially when the man is involved to any relationships or fatherhood. Why? It is because, once he acts like an asshole, a lot of people will be affected by it. And it's not a good act.

However, the statements are just my opinion and are merely based from what I have observed and what goes on in the household. Thus, it may not or may be true to others.